When I was young I experienced chaos. My childhood was not all chaos. Growing up I had it all. My parents were very supportive, they helped me with school work, went to my ball games, and anything else my siblings and I ever did. But with all the great memerories I still remember the day that chaos set in on my life. I came home from school and my parents, who never ever argued in front of us kids and always seemed like they had it together, told me that they were getting divorced. Some people may think that this would not create chaos but as a child, I was in 4th grade, it was so devasting. My dad moved out and I become the victim of 2 parents hating each other and trying to win our love which they already had. The next few years was constant chaos trying to please both of threm while at the same time not hurting them. Now that I am 27 I understand alot of things that I did not understand when I was younger. I now understand they both were trying to do what they thought was the best for their children. I still and will always remember that day that my chaos set in but its just a memory now.
Many children share the same chaos that I had. Divorce is so high in the United States. Divorce most times causes chaos but a bad marriage at the same time causes chaos as well so I am not going to say that one is better than the other. This post is not about which is right because I am not to say or give my opinion but just to tell my story about my chaos.
I truly agree that divorce brings chaos. I remember my parents separation and later divorce. I think it was caused by my mothers infidelity. I was in the second grade and my father flooded our basement with all our furniture. We moved to California. The three girl's stayed with our grandmother and the three boy's stayed with our grandfather. We had never been separated. I became what the doctor's called "selective mute-ism". I wouldn't talk for a year. After that, I had to have special therapy to learn how to talk/read again. Today, I mispronounce words and can't think of what to say. I also didn't eat and became very skinny in my teenage and early adult years. My father and mother were the world to me and divorce in our town was a serious taboo. I see divorced celebrities here in Hollywood divorcing and I can't believe it. Divorce is a serious social, emotional stessor for children.
ReplyDeleteI talked about chaos in my blog as well. I was not raised in a chaotic situation but my niece was. Sadly parents and caregivers do not realize how the chaos that they create effect the children. While they are making the best decisions for them, it is extremely difficult for the children. Sadly when parents can no longer make it work, it is probably best to leave and not create anymore stress in the home. I think that chaos is one thing that is hard to prevent. Parents and caregivers have to try their best to make sure the children are dealing with the issues well.
ReplyDeleteI agree chaos is probably one of the ones that might be the most common. It is sad that parents can no longer make it work. No only chaos is cost in divorces but I think the death of a parent or someone else who is very close to you.
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